DEAR SISTER YOU ARE NOT ALONE

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Written by Amarachi Ogbonnaya.

That moment when you feel like taking coldstone ice cream and shawarma, but your bank akant be looking at you like, "Wehdone ma, I will disgrace you today," eskis me sisi, you are not alone, sometimes I am in that spot too, being a foodie makes it harder sef, my food crazings most times are out of this world, ah I can't wait to make plenty money so that I can eat all the food in the world, (is it your food?, why are you looking at me laik that ?😕).

Have you noticed that its when you don't have money that your long throat (akpiri ogologo) wants to disgrace herself, happens to me every time I am broke, but I always bind and cast and rebuke my village me, in fact, I am more judicious with money when it comes to spending it during my short days (broke days 😀).

One day, I went to coldstone, (there was a time, they were my customers in Abuja, ah ah, I would enter keke marwa to coldstone in Gwarinpa just to buy, "I like it" abi kilonpe, the smallest cup sha, I was that obsessed and obesed too), anyway, back to my story, I got there finally, feeling like I just arrivedarrived (I did a jobjob that gave me money that period) and there was a couple in front of me, so I had to wait.

The sister was asked what she wanted and she said the big cup, you need to see the way uncle eyed her and told the lady to give her the smallest cup, when it was time to order the main ice cream she was asked how many flavors she wanted and before she could reply, uncle said they should give her only one flavor, ah, ayemi Temi bami, the sofoworola in me (amebo somebody in me) already stood at attention, the fellow woman amazon in me was already getting ready to defend the lady, I was just watching the drama unfold right in front of me, the lady was already pissed and she said she didn't want again, if you see how the uncle challenged her ehn, in public o, with raised voice fa, Haaaaaaa, I was already shaking inside, how dare he, how dare him, English is wicked. I held my peace like the fine gentle lady that I am (Lol), anyway, I decided to come in and offered to buy her the ice cream of her choice and the man just told her that if she collects it, he will leave and she would never see him again, plus she can't coerce him to drive down and embarrass him in public, me I was just watching the drama unfolding in front of me, the lady accepted my offer and true to his words, he left her at the ice cream store.
After paying for both of us, she thanked me for the ice cream and I asked her who the guy was to her and she said her boyfriend, wawu, boyfriend ehn, I asked her what she does for a living and she said she is a student that she doesn't have any handiwork,  I remembered my own school days, how I sold Ankara materials just so I could have extra money from what my parents were giving me, how I was going for events as an usher so I could have extra money to treat myself and do basic things and then I said to her, if I could do all these things and survive without a man, you can too. She hugged me, took my number and left.

Dear sister, whatever it is you are going through, you are not alone, we have all being there, I remember when my ex leant me money for an ushering job registration, he collected his money back in full, no joke, I remember when I would beg money from friends when I didn't have and they would either give me ridiculous conditions or blatantly refuse, I remember when I did what this lady did and the response I got was, "Must you lick ice cream?"  Not trying to sound entitled, but I believe a man should take care of his woman, but if he doesn't do it, do it yourself, there is an adage that says, "There is love in sharing, but there is peace in having your own," dear sister, you are not alone, we have all passed, are passing through this phase, this too shall pass, but it should only motivate you to want to have your own money and not rely on a man, it is working for me, I feel at peace with my Chi knowing nobody is laying claims to my freshness (you know that feeling).

That being said, sister you are not alone, this too shall pass, work smart and motivate yourself, tell yourself, "I will not be a liability to anybody; man or woman," have a dream and a plan and hold unto God, he alone should determine your place in life.

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