ON WOMEN PULLING WOMEN DOWN

Written by Amarachi Ogbonnaya

Hi guys, happy weekend!!!

Ever heard the word, "Women are their own enemies"? its a yes and no answer, depending on your experience.

Rumour has it that a certain MD contracted ushers for an event, the MD of the organization (I do not want to call names for security reasons) was in charge of choosing the ushers and if you see how she berated some of them who were not, "up to her standard ehn", you would cry for them, as if that was not enough, she attacked their self esteem, all for what? tissue money I might add, but the unique thing was that, majority of them were university undergraduates, who are at home as a result of the ASUU strike and didn't want to b idle, so decided to do part time legit hustle, I wondered why an aunty, for she was so to these ladies, couldn't encourage these girls by being subtle on her approach, instead went all out on them. I can hear someone say she is the client and so has her spec, yen, yen, yen, have you seen/met bitchy clients? have you met them? you would hate doing business with them, she was way out of line. I know you must be wondering why the rumor monger didn't defend them, brethren some battles are better left open. It was a pity some were even begging her, chai, God helep us in this country, where there is so much poverty.

Another time, i had some not so close friends come around and during the course of gathering, one who felt she had made it in life started berating the other one, who is legit hustling for her money, that she wasn't in her class, in the course of he exchange, it was discovered she was a small girl of one of our big Daddies in politics, ehn, hanty and you are talking because your daddy bought you Peruvian hair, allow you ride one of his numerous cars and can afford to send you on exotic trips in the abroad, iffa slap you ehn, you wee know that wherever those with bicycles are gathered to talk, little children posing with their fathers cars cant even chook mouth, who gives birth to these small children sef?

Have you been on social media lately? Instagram and co? yo wee  read stories of women pulling women down, you will begin to wonder, "Who do us." It so bad now, that the men are taking it to their advantage; you see a guy dating two friends and instead of the ladies to come together and fight the guy, they begin to fight each other, ah, Oluwa o. Some years back, rumor has it that in a certain uni, a friend starting going out with her friends' boyfriend and when the real girlfriend found out, she went to fought the said friend in public, it was a shameful act, the man in question didn't date both of them again las las, like, why leave A who is tormenting you to fight B who is helping him, if he didn't choose B, he would have chosen C, D, E, the options are many.

For the life of me, I cant imagine pulling down a fellow woman to feel good with myself, its not just in my blood, i believe whoever does it is suffering from chronic low self esteem, quote me anywhere for free, why bring down someone else to feel good about yourself. A smart woman who knows where she is going, knows that she needs others to get there and as such must treat them well, hence they f**k her up.

I leave you with this, women start adjusting the crowns of your fellow sisters, that's the only way our message of feminism will be accepted by both men and women. We mothers of tomorrow must do better to raise our girl child to have a healthy dose of self esteem and not pull down others to get to the top, my two kobo advise to all women out there.